Why no Gay Marriage?

Giving a homosexual union the title of 'marriage' would be to dignify homosexual activity with a title that it does not deserve because marriage is a holy Sacrament and homosexual activity is immoral.

Marriage exists as a social contract to protect children. Children are the future of our society. Children are helpless and vulnerable. Children have certain needs that they cannot by themselves fulfil - needs like shelter, protection, support and love. When those needs are not met, the children don't grow up healthy, either physically or emotionally. And then, a generation later, we're left with a society of unhealthy citizens, and we become an unhealthy society. Hence, the state's marriage interest.

The Catholic Church regards the family as the basic cell of society. In paragraphs 2201 to 2203 of the Catechism of the Catholic Church, a family is built upon the marriage of husband and wife and the conception and education of children. A man and a woman [not a man and a man, nor a woman and a woman] united in marriage, together with their children, form a family. Therefore, the idea of 'gay marriages' attacks and undermines the traditional understanding of the words 'marriage' and 'family'. [See Bonacci, M. We're On A Mission From God and Real Love Ignatius Press]

One of the primary needs of a child is the need for two parents. Even single parents are the first to affirm that a child needs two parents. Raising children is a two-person job. And not just any two persons will do. First of all, more and more evidence is coming to the fore suggesting that children need one male and one female parent. [Just the way God has always intended it.] Men and women 'parent' differently. Women tend to be more nurturing, whereas men tend to be more encouraging of risk-taking, etc. It's in that balance of the two that we find our balance. And moreover, increasing evidence shows that children need love and acceptance from a primary male and a primary female (ie mother and father) in order to develop into healthy adults psycho-sexually. And children need these primary people to stay primary. They can't just switch parents in mid-stream. Those attachments are permanent. Not just any man or woman will do. Once the attachment forms, that's the person whose acceptance and love they need.

Homosexual unions fill none of the above requirements. They don't, by their very nature, produce children. So gay parenting is unnatural [definitely not what God intended]. They don't offer children the masculine-feminine balance they need. They deny the order and shape that family life has always given society. Of course, current reproductive technologies have made it possible for gay couples to become 'parents' artificially but those processes are in themselves immoral. [It is worthwhile noting that IVF has killed 9 out of 10 of the babies it has conceived. - De Stoop, Contraception " the Hidden Truth]

So why allow 'gay and lesbian marriages'? Why legally obligate these people to each other "'till death do they part"? There is quite simply no need. Society has no formal interest in whether or not these unions stay together. If we did create a formal contract between these individuals, we'd just be getting the government involved for no reason, clogging the courts with ‘gay divorces' and 'gay remarriages' with absolutely no up-side for society.

[Taken mostly from an article by Mary Beth Bonacci in Fidelity magazine.]



* Please note that this text should be read in the context of the whole work and in recognition of the appropriate paragraphs of the Catechism of the Catholic Church highlighted in the index.