Why Temptations, Masturbation and Sex Before Marriage?
WHY DOES GOD GIVE US URGES IF HE DOESN'T WANT US TO ACT ON THEM? WHY PRESENT US WITH TEMPTATIONS? WHY PUT BEFORE OUR MINDS AND HEARTS TEMPTATIONS SUCH AS MASTURBATION, SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE AND ADULTERY?
It was not God's original plan that we should suffer temptations brought on by our disordered urges. God's will for us was that our first parents, Adam and Eve (from whom we are all descended), should obey His commands; in doing so, they would have won for us all the benefits of living in paradise with God. But they didn't. And so we pay the price in our own persons: we're weak-willed, lazy, lustful etc because we are not conforming our wills to God's law; our tendency to sin from Original Sin can be overcome by our free-willed response to the grace God gives us to overcome our temptations. We're free to conquer our urges, or to give in to them.
So, we don't blame God, or ourselves, for the urges we have that tempt us towards immorality; they come ultimately from Satan, they have their origin in Satan's abuse of his freedom and his subsequent seduction of our first parents. Our urges towards sin we have inherited from the Original Sin of Adam and Eve. But, through Christ's sacrificial, once and for all, death on the Cross, all the grace necessary to control and master these urges has been given. We have been given free will. It was not God's original plan that we should suffer from disordered urges â€" they have come originally from Satan's initial abuse of his own free will. The grace of Christ, if we freely open ourselves to it, will re-establish God's originally intended state of justice. We'll always have these urges in this life on Earth but we'll be in control of them. Grace is obtained from the Sacraments and virtuous living. Crowding out the urges that are tempting us to immorality (by sublimation of energy, not suppression) by wholesome virtuous pursuits is the way forward.
* Please note that this text should be read in the context of the whole work and in recognition of the appropriate paragraphs of the Catechism of the Catholic Church highlighted in the index.